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    Allen Baker had a college degree and a history of short term employment.

    He was the only son of helicopter parents who hovered and did everything in their power to protect him from any kind of disappointment or failure. As a youngster he had played soccer where ?everyone wins.? He played baseball where batters were never humiliated by being ruled ?out.?

    His parents chose schools that didn?t actually give grades because that would cause anxiety and ?educational discrimination.? Although he tried many activities Kids Nikita Kucherov Jersey , such as piano lessons, karate, and tap dancing, he never stuck with them. As a consequence of his parents? quest to ensure that he suffered no disappointment, they also made sure he experienced no true success and no excitement.

    It is hardly surprising that he fell in with some questionable elements in college. For the first time in his life he was able to make decisions Womens Mikhail Sergachev Jersey , and, despite the numerous daily calls from his parents, he made some bad decisions?too much drinking, too much partying, and experimentation with pot Womens Steven Stamkos Jersey , cocaine, and ecstasy among other drugs. He was able to keep his grades up enough to graduate in four and a half years. Immediately after graduating from college, however, he moved back in with his parents. It was what kids of helicopter parents do.

    Although he had a degree in political science, his resume would show short stints at jobs where he was either overqualified or grossly under qualified. In all jobs he lacked any kind of passion or interest. This eventually led to a huge blowup with his father. He packed up his Toyota Camry and moved out. That was two months ago. In and out of jobs since and nights spent sleeping in his car Womens Nikita Kucherov Jersey , he ended up parked in front of my house.

    Knowing my own history with Elijah, I tried not to ask too many penetrating questions about how Allen encountered Elijah, but it involved drinking, drugs, and some late night disturbances of others? peace.

    He was rail thin with curly black hair peeking out from under his ball cap. He was one of those guys who Authentic Mikhail Sergachev Jersey , if he couldn?t gesture with his hands, couldn?t talk at all. He was in constant motion, unable to sit still.

    Sometimes he chopped with his hands, sometimes he pointed for emphasis, and almost always he made some kind of motion with his hands to establish each point. We sat on my back porch as I listened?and watched him?recount some of his previous employment experiences. ?Entry level management for a car rental company Authentic Steven Stamkos Jersey ,? he rambled. ?Entry level management for a home builder, entry level management for a fast food company. Entry level is a euphemism for people with college degrees who work for people with no college degrees. In most of those places the secretaries really run the place. And for the most part, they could run the entire enterprise. The problem is they have so much resentment for young college guys that they make you so miserable that you just quit.?

    ?Did you ever think that perhaps you were the problem?? It occurred to me that he had an excuse for every job he left and lots of blame to assign.

    He looked at me as if I had just accused him of being the devil incarnate.

    ?Allen, no disrespect intended, but you can?t go through life quitting and blaming. At some point you have to ask yourself what?s your involvement in all this? The patterns within your job history suggest that the only consistency in all this is you. How are you responsible for what?s happened to you??

    ?I am responsible; that?s why I quit.? He threw his hands in the air in frustration. ?Those places didn?t value me at all.?

    ?Allen Authentic Nikita Kucherov Jersey , I think you are missing the point. I can understand that you have had jobs where you didn?t feel passionately about the work, but your pattern of quit and blame is well beyond normal. Maybe you were trying to fit into an environment that wasn?t right for you, but doing it over and over says more about you than it does about the places you worked.?

    ?What do you want me to do? Just work in a place I can?t stand??

    ?No, but you need to investigate and reflect on what you experienced in order to find the type of work that suits you. What didn?t you like? What do you want in a career? Figure out what you want; don?t just run back into the same kind of position you just left. Let me ask you something.? I paused, trying to be as tactful as possible. ?In your job with the car rental company Mikhail Sergachev Jersey , can you name a single customer you served??

    He looked at me blankly, providing the answer.

    ?Do you know anything about them?a name, kind of car, kids, spouse Steven Stamkos Jersey , anything about them??

    He shook his head.

    ?I?ll bet you knew exactly how much you were paid?all your benefits, the hours you were supposed to work. I bet you can name all of the perks of the job?even though there weren?t enough for you. Even if the work wasn?t right for you, you didn?t take an interest in any customer. I?m sure it was the same for the home builder and the fast food company.? He nodded in agreement. ?To be successful you have to take an interest in people and in business. The most important person is the customer?not your supervisor, not your boss. In that environment your customers are your fence posts.

    Did Elijah talk to you about fence posts??

    ?Yeah, he did. I couldn?t understand what he was talking about. What the heck are fence posts??

    ?Fence posts are the people in your life. The interactions with them are what give your life meaning. A series of jobs with no emotion and no connection doesn?t make a life. They make an existence Nikita Kucherov Jersey , not a life. All your focus is on you. What you get. That doesn?t work.?

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